As many of you know, I have a son.
He is 21 years old. He is a good young man who is very responsible and self sufficient. Plus (and not just because he is my son) he is very handsome. He's tall and lean. His new look is sort of like the beatnik from Doby Gillis. If anyone can remember that show from many years ago.
There is one thing that is not good about him. He has become very disrespectful. He picks on me and answers me back. He has even hung the phone up on me. I don't understand what is going on. I know there is no underlying problem. No drug use. The kid won't even be around someone who smokes cigarettes. I am sure of this.
His disrespect fullness is getting to me big time. No matter what I say, he jumps down my throat. I've brought this up with hubby but it's no use. All I get from him is that it's my own fault. I don't see how that is possible. Because if trying to help. Or, asking a question is my fault. Then maybe it is.
How can this be possible?
I guess I should be happy that he only does this with me. With EVERYONE else he is just the perfect young man. Respectful, helpful and kind. But with me he is not. And, I am proud of him. In all areas of his life he is great. Smart and responsible.
It's gotten to the point that I am afraid to ask him a question. For fear that he is going to jump down my throat. Even when I told him how much I liked his girlfriend. And, that she seems sweet. I told him that she was cute. He yelled at me.
I have been crying for most of the morning.
It happened again this morning. He got a new dresser for his room and I asked him if there was anything he wanted me to do in there. He said, "No, just leave everything along because I have my computer stuff all over the place!" I then asked him if he had any dishes or dirty clothes in there. He jumped down my throat. "Didn't I just ask you to stay out of there?"
I just started to cry and ask him to please stop being disrespectful. I was sobbing actually. I am still sobbing. I just cannot stop.
He proceeded to leavefor work, but turned around and came up the stair and hugged me. That was nice, but I am still crying. I just don't understand what I did to deserve being treated like this.
Yeah, I get it that he is at a point in his life where he is paving his way. I get it that he is not really a grown up but trying to be one. I know that you always hurt the one you love. But I don't get this.
It's really hurting me.